JANUARY 1996: Stepping out of Brisbane airport and into the hot, humid Queensland air.
JUNE 1997: Coming out to my mother on the phone.
FEBRUARY 1999: Waiting in the immigration queue after landing in Cairo and lighting up a cigarette.
MARCH 2003: Watching my first play being performed.
OCTOBER 2008: My partner telling me that he is HIV positive.
AUGUST 2009: Standing on Circular Quay in Sydney and knowing that I would live in that city one day.
FEBRUARY 2010: Seeing S. waiting for me at the airport in LA, wearing a new checkered shirt.
FEBRUARY 2010: Holding my first book in my hands at my publisher's office and thinking: I'll miss my train.
SEPTEMBER 2011: Giving S. his house key back and for a split second thinking he might hit me.
MAY 2012: Being woken up after the first night in the clinic and knowing that something had changed but not knowing what that was.